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Gender:
A spiritual
God-seeking man, (not just a) Male, Athletic &
Healthy, a man of prayer & worship, a man of
God's Word, Who seeks to be a man after God's own
heart because...
TRUE MEN LOVE Jesus!
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Age:
Born again
Christian for over 24 years
Jeff is a Matt.
6:33 Christian man,
a sinner saved by grace
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Location:
Indianapolis,
Indiana USA
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Height:
around 6'
3"
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Occupation:
computer guru
& professional businessman & MacIndy.com
company owner
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Weight:
185
pounds
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Flavor of Christian
faith:
Non-denominational,
inter-denominational, Bible centered, Jesus is God,
the cross and Blood of Christ are the only Way to
Heaven and the sole means of salvation, Full
Gospel, gifts of the Spirit are real &
everything the Bible says is true, Born again
Christian for over 24 years, reads/listens to the
Bible, prays and worships Jesus for hours a
day
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Marital
Status/history:
Single (never
married), a virgin
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Priority of Christian
Beliefs:
For over 20
years, Christian seeking has been at the top of my
list, & defines who I am
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Race/Ethnicity:
White, American
born
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Education:
Two Bachelor's
Degrees (twice completed college)
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Smoking:
Nonsmoker (never
smoked, never will)
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Intellect:
Above Average,
two college degrees completed
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Drinking/Drugs:
I Never drink
anything alcoholic or put any other dangerous
chemicals into my body. I do not seek artificial or
chemical highs (never have, never will)
Jesus & the
Presence of God is the ONLY high needed to enjoy
life or deal with struggles we face. In God's
Presence is FULLNESS of joy! Psalm 16
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Extrovert & people
person:
I initiate
conversation & am usually outgoing in
situations where this is fruitful or appropriate. I
am a people person.
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Personality
characteristics:
Artistic,
Musical, Easy going, Nurturing, Romantic,
Affectionate, Loving, Kind, Gentle, Relationship
& people oriented, good listener, Caring, heart
desires one woman for life
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Humor:
I love telling
jokes or stories. And feel God Himself has a great
sense of humor. Psalm 2 says: "The One enthroned in
heaven LAUGHS!" My favorite picture of Jesus is one
an artist rendered of Jesus full of joy his face
expressing a hearty "belly laugh."
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Politics:
Conservative
(Biblical, Christian) perspective on
matters
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Health/Fitness/Diet:
Exercise &
health is a high priority. (Prayer & worship
& the Bible & ministering to others is even
higher in priority. = A healthy, fit spiritual diet
Psalm 1:3)
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Thinker /
Feeler:
Feeler
(spiritual, praying, heart listening to God &
His Word, intuitive, sensitive), very open with my
feelings and emotions to trusted, close Christian
friends. Yet also very studied with 2 college
degrees (Thinker), a computer tech guru (for a
fulltime living) and Artistic (musician,
songwriter).
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Favorite Outdoor
Activities:
walking,
exercising& parks nature areas
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Money:
Means little to
me. I have plenty of income but am usually a
Careful Spender.
Though I have plenty of income, I just don't waste
or squander it. I believe in giving to missions
& providing Bibles for world evangelism in
countries where people are hungry for God (and
won't let God's Word collect dust).
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Favorite Indoor
Activities:
Prayer &
fellowship & Bible &
music/worship
Go hear
Jeff's music
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Planning:
I plan business
& schedule related things, but am flexible
& easygoing otherwise
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Fashion/dress:
Fashion is a
pair of jeans
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Neatness:
I prefer the
'Lived
In' look
(but with things findable & organized in a
useful order). My business is orderly &
organized.
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Looks:
Above average
looks, healthy, athletic, toned, physically slim
yet muscular
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Have Children? Feelings
about what it really means to consider becoming a
parent:
Have never had
any biological children. Have never been married.
More importantly
though I have done the work of evangelism for many
years sharing the gospel with hundreds and
thousands of people. Making fruitful use of single,
nonmarried years. I have been a spiritual father (discipler) to many
younger Christians over these years. Taught Bible
studies and shepherded families, others' children
and home fellowship groups (to help people grow in
the faith). I like & enjoy children and have
worked in children's ministries, taught Sunday
school & taught about 4 years in the Indpls
public schools (elementary age kids). I really love
& enjoy ministering to kids. I have found by
not having my own biological children I
am free to minister to MANY MORE children (others')
than if I was responsibly focused on one or two of
my own.
Biblical ideas
(through
Jeff's eyes) about marriage &
children...
Having children is something which should be given
to prayer and left UP TO THE LORD. Parenting should
only be desired and undertaken in today's difficult
world, not out of unmet emotional needs or fanciful
hopes for the bliss of being mom and dad. But only
if the two marriage partners will together pursue
LIFELONG FAITHFULNESS to each other. And, within
this lifelong commitment, together prayerfully and
soberly consider the 20+ year responsibility and
cost of time and lots of money that bringing a
child into the world truly is.
Then only if the
two, honestly before God, understand the commitment
and will together to spiritually, lovingly care
for, raise and train a needy human being in the
ways of the Lord. We live in a world full of
abandoned children, unwed mothers and divorce. Any
Christian relationship should LESSEN that problem.
Not add to a world of orphans & child
neglect.
Intimacy &
romance between a Christian husband & wife (a
lifelong romance with ONE) is wonderful! And I am
all for that. To add to this the responsibility of
parenting and the needs of a third human being
should not be rushed into lightly. Having a child
is a 20 year commitment.
I feel a newly
married couple is better off to be prayerful, led
by God and think soberly about their life and
future. Almost anyone can "have children." Not many
though have the heart or character to responsibly
parent. A man and woman should ask whether they can
best meet the needs of today's world by focusing
their lives on God and ministering to others.
Consider seeking and saving the lost (outsiders)
and having a heart for the nations instead of
spending so many years on we, ourselves and us?
Living lives seeking Jesus and His intimate
Presence. Loving & shepherding others and
evangelizing the world (as Matt. 6:33, Matt.
28:18-20 urge) as of first priority.
Having and
raising children greatly diminishes the available
time and energy a couple can have to pray and reach
out to the world with the saving message of Jesus
and His love. More children, less time for
others.
The overall
principle of minimizing "distracting" or
"competing" responsibilities is to focus a greater
amount of a couple's time and attention on the work
of the ministry. Caring for other people. Paul
& Jesus (both) in their singleness both chose
this pathway. And 1 Corinthians 7 describes it in
detail. For example, be youth group leaders to
several dozen kids (instead of spend 7 days a week
caring for only your own)?
Children are a
blessing from the Lord. However, having children
should be left up to a mutual seeking of God's will
by husband and wife and knowing the
responsibilities and costs involved. Jesus lived a
single life all his years so the world could
benefit. Because "God so loved THE
WORLD."
For some of us,
the temptations of an immoral world or our own
weaknesses can eventually signal a time in life
when you feel too susceptible and may need to
"punt" (and get married), for companionship and
safety. For "it is better to marry (and find safe
commitment) than to burn with passion (in an
immoral or nonmarried way)." And "since there is so
much immorality (in today's world), each man should
have his own wife and each woman her own husband
(marrying each other as virgins and remaining
together in lifelong faithfulness to ONE as husband
and wife)." - 1 Cor. 7 summarized
After 20 years
of adult Christian life, I am still a virgin (on
purpose). By a ton of grace and help from the Lord.
I have struggled to keep my life physically and
relationally unentangled from baggage because I
want my future wife to feel safe, to know I will be
faithful to her for life. That by God's grace she
will be the ONE & ONLY the rest of our lives.
Titus and Timothy say: a man should be "the husband
of BUT ONE wife." This is God's sexual and romantic
best.
I feel Wisdom
would reveal that to yield to temptation to want
physical involvement with any person not married to
is a dangerous mistake. Proverbs 4-7 goes into all
the gory details. Sexual intimacy is only safe and
blessed when enjoyed with ONE marriage partner for
life. One man, one woman, virgins when married.
Together for life, never involved romantically or
sexually with anyone else prior to or outside of
marriage (emotionally or physically), faithful to
one for life. A lifelong, exclusive intimacy. This
is God's very best, never to be shared with
strangers. I have purposely waited most of my adult
and Christian life for ONE.
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Income:
$60,000 to
$100,000 range in recent years, increasing every
year
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Relationship
history:
Am still a
virgin, have avoided casual "dating" for many
years, instead sought to keep my life pure before
God, and avoid inappropriate relationships, for
reasons of Christian integrity, safety &
purity. Seek spiritually focused friendships
centered on Jesus instead (when these become
possible).
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Spectator
Sports:
I don't like
being a spectator but want to PARTICIPATE, not
merely watch
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Relationship hoped
for:
I believe in
Jesus-focused friendship, courtship &
betrothal. I'd like to find the Lord's provision of
a long term friendship, a relationship which is
God's choosing, getting to know a faithful
Christian woman who will be a lifelong partner. To
be friends, God has joined together, and never be
divided. I do not believe in divorce. My motto is
NEVER DIVIDED! I have held out for Lifelong
faithfulness to one. This is what I I pray and wait
for.
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Preferred Age for a
woman Jeff
would like to become friends with and court:
A tried & true, faithful Christian woman
probably any age between 20 to 36 years old
(flexible, age is not that important, a heart for
God is what counts)
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Television viewing,
movies, & ideas about entertainment &
music:
Psalm 1:1-3 (the
Bible & Holy Spirit) should sensitively guide
what Christians do and don't do. The purpose is
Romans 12:1-3 For reasons like these, I don't watch
any secular (non-Christian)
television/videos/movies or read/listen to
pagan/secular music or radio (and would wish for
the meditations and messages of the world to be not
allowed in a future Christian home with a
wife).
Instead an
appropriate Christian wife would desire and seek
God with me and we would spend time with each
other, enjoying each other and fun things.
Especially the joy of God's Presence (Psalm 16
& Psalm 126 fulfilled).
The faithful
Christian woman God chooses would prefer to seek
God and pray together with her husband. We would
worship the Lord alone at home as a couple and be
like Psalm 1:1-3 describes, meditating on God's
Word day and night, TOGETHER. This leads to
life.
Real interaction
with real people, preferably in a way which is fun,
edifying, ministering or focusing on God is much
preferred over mind-corrupting or vegetative
(non-people oriented) passive "entertainment."
For example a
much more edifying approach to enjoyment could be
something like listening to Christian music or
worshipping the Lord TOGETHER with a friend in a
meditative or worshipful sharing. This leads to
more meaningful friendship and sharing and growing
closer with each other. Because it is time focused
on relationship and interaction with God. Anything
like this is BETTER.
Psalm 101 says:
"I have resolved to set before my eyes no vile
thing." And Romans 12:1-3 describes the best
way.
"Better is one
day in Your courts than a thousand elsewhere." -
Psalm 84
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How a friend would
describe Jeff_indianapolis to others:
Jeff
Loves to talk & sing about God! To witness to
others about Jesus & the Bible. Worshipping the
Lord and sharing Him with others is Jeff's LIFE!
(What else is there?) Any thing pertaining to
Jesus, God's Word, worship, God's Presence, prayer,
Christian music in the Holy of Holies embracing
God's intimate Presence is the ULTIMATE excitement!
"And being WITH YOU (Lord) I desire NOTHING on
earth." - Psalms
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Jeff's Preferences in a
possible future Partner
A
woman who has kept herself pure, who wants one
husband for life. To her, God, the Bible,
worshipping Jesus is her LIFE (also). I believe in
lifelong faithfulness to ONE woman (as the
scripture encourages), God's BEST.
There is mercy
and forgiveness for any hurts, mistakes and
failures in life through Jesus. But God's BEST is
(Titus and Timothy both say) to "be the husband of
but ONE wife." Lifelong faithfulness. That is what
I am looking and praying for. I have found that
Jesus-centered friendships, Biblically rich sharing
and caring, that approach to getting to know one
another is best. I would want to build the
foundation of our friendship on praying for one
another, WITH one another, and sharing the Word and
ministering to others together. A Jesus-centered
friendship, caring for one another, fulfilling the
"one anothers" of scripture, then COURTING with the
specific mutual intention toward seeking and
confirming God's will for friendship and marriage.
Jesus first, friendship, courting. Then marriage
with Matt. 6:33, preestablished as our basis. It is
a rare and wonderful Christian woman who would
really long to do things this way and build a life
together based on God, not human level bonding
alone.
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Tell us a little about
your Christian faith, such as how you became a
Christian, what your faith means to you:
Born
again Christian for over 24 years. God & the
Bible, worshipping Jesus and sharing Him with
others is my LIFE! (What else is there?) Any thing
pertaining to Jesus, God's Word, worship, God's
Presence, prayer, Christian music in the Holy of
Holies embracing God's intimate Presence is the
ULTIMATE excitement! "And being WITH YOU (Lord) I
desire NOTHING on earth." - Psalm 73
Go hear
Jeff's music
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Describe your personality
and physical appearance. Include information about
hobbies, interests, pets, musical abilities,
etc.
God
& the Bible, prayer, worshipping Jesus &
ministering to others is my LIFE!
I love God, Christian music, God's Word,
ministering to people & enjoy children.
I love & enjoy CHILDREN! I spent most of the
years from 1988-1995 involved in children's
ministries, teaching Sunday school & trying to
find various avenues to minister to children. I
spent several years as an elementary education
classroom school teacher in public schools &
also spent summers as a recreation director in city
parks to minister JESUS to kids! I love playing and
goofing around with kids when the opportunity is
there. Have also done downtown evangelistic
children's ministries in inner city neighborhoods.
Wherever kids were that's where I would go. Jesus
LOVES the LITTLE CHILDREN! "Let the little children
come unto me, for to such BELONGS THE KINGDOM OF
HEAVEN!
I am a musician, play saxophone, guitar, piano, am
a Christian songwriter and worship leader. The Lord
has given me hundreds of Christian songs for
worship and ministry. I am involved in music
ministry for evangelism and as ministry to
believers.
I like to work out (walks, treadmill, running
machines, etc.) and do so on a regular basis. I eat
a healthy diet, am slim, well-exercised, muscular
& healthy. It would be nice someday to have a
work out partner and, even better, someone to
worship Jesus with in the Holy of Holies, playing
piano & guitar and Christian worship music, and
to spend time in prayer & in the Word with
everyday. A faithful woman who loves God to go to
church WITH. My favorite hobbies are worshipping
God, writing and recording Christian music,
ministering to others and prayer!
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What kind of work do you
do? Do you enjoy it?
Computer service, repair, upgrade,
support tech (have my own computer store and repair
shop and do onsite computer tech work). I have a
computer shop (where I sell and service new and
used computers, do upgrades, repair,
troubleshooting, etc.) I am a full time tech guy
and do onsite tech support service for companies,
corporations & small businesses on a free lance
basis (as well as my music stuff which I do part
time on the side). I own MacIndy dot com It is the
business God gave and built for me. A miracle of
God's faithful provision! My income runs
$60,000-100,000 and increases each fiscal year.
(Though my business, compared to CompUSA or Circuit
City, is small). Still the entire glory goes to God
who has taken me into a kind of work where I have a
completely flexible schedule, can work (or not
work) any hours or days as is appropriate. It's
like being paid well and flexibly able to be "on
vacation" whenever you want, go on mission trips
and put God first year round. I can take any
morning or afternoon off any day of the week. Am
not bound to a desk, meet a variety of people. Can
have unlimited free time to minister, fellowship,
prioritize a relationship and give God and the
"would-be wife" first place in the day or week. It
is the most incredible of arrangements from God's
own hand! My business has been very, very fruitful
as a BRIDGE to meet and minister Jesus to dozens
and dozens of strangers ("computer-crazed"
unbelievers) through the common interest of
computers. You get chances to serve them in a
meaningful and sincere way that builds a friendly
open door to also witness. Hallelujah to God!!!
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How do you view your level
of spiritual maturity? Do you attend services
and/or Bible Studies or other Christian fellowship
gatherings? Are you involved in
ministries?
Have
been a Christian since saved 24+ years ago. Have
struggles. Still growing. Sometimes feel like Noah
or Lot, trapped on the edge of a wicked world. 2
Peter 2:4-9 I am filled with the Holy Spirit (Acts
2:4, 19:6, 10:44-48), believe it is IMPORTANT for
Christians to be OPEN to ALL the gifts of the
Spirit (prophecy, healing, revelation gifts,
dreams, visions, tongues, discernment, music,
ALL!). Why limit God? God & the Bible,
worshipping Jesus and sharing Him with others is my
LIFE! (What else is there?)
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What was your major and/or
favorite classes in high school and/or
college?
Music, Business & Elementary
Education (two college degrees completed and an IN
State teacher's license in Elementary Education)
through Ball State & IU
Go hear
Jeff's music
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Why did your most recent
relationship(s) not work out?
I
have never been married. And have no children. And
am still a virgin. I have sought a few pure,
Christ-centered close Christian friendships with
Christian women over the years. Each relationship
was purposely kept pure & chaste. I am still a
virgin. And have tried to keep each friendship
focused on God's will & seeking the Lord.
Sharing His Word & Presence together (Matt.
6:33) and keep our lives and times together
Christ-centered and full of good fruit. Somehow in
each case the possibilities with each Christian
woman was either not God's will to continue to the
level of marriage or the other person began to show
evident signs of not wanting to be committed to the
Lord further or a loving, faithful friendship with
me. I have always wanted a lifelong, faithful
friendship where we will grow together in
deephearted following of Christ. (Not merely stay
at some "entry-level" Christian faith, where,
lacking hunger, some only seek enough to "stay
saved" or call themselves Christian. Instead I am
looking for a woman who has a "heart for the
nations," who wants to go to the mission field
(here in America or elsewhere). And desires, with
me, to lay down her life to love others and help
them know the Lord. Together, lifelong, faithful,
seek and serve the Lord.
Out of obedience
to God's Word and seeking only pure relationships
with women all these years, I am still a virgin and
struggle in today's messed up, confused world to
try to keep my heart before God in prayer in the
area of women to have an undefiled testimony before
the Lord. I believe in the 1 Th 4 scripture which
says: "Learn to acquire a wife in a way that is
holy and honorable not...like the heathen who do
not know God."
*see addtl comments below for more details about
where my life has been in this regard
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What are your favorite
musicians, authors, artists, songs, books, poems,
paintings, etc?
David (Psalms & other Psalmists in
the Bible)
I am a Christian songwriter and worship leader
myself and have (by God's inspiration) written
hundreds of Christian worship choruses and
scripture songs.
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Favorite Quotes, Songs or
Bible verses:
Phil. 1:6 "Being confident of this
that He Who began a good work in you will carry it
on to completion until the day of Christ
Jesus!"
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Any additional
comments?
I
have been a Christian over 24 years, I have led a
Bible-centered, Jesus=salvation, Jesus is my Best
Friend & Lord +yes to Holy Spirit & gifts
kind of Christian walk. 1 Cor. 12 (about the gifts
of the Spirit) & Acts 2:4 & 19:6 (and Mark
16:15-20) about being FILLED with the Holy Spirit,
receiving spiritual gifts are VERY IMPORTANT to
EVERY Christian's life. Jesus said: "These signs
SHALL accompany those who believe: In my Name they
will speak with new (other) tongues (languages)."
Speaking in tongues, prophecy, healing and words of
knowledge from God are VERY COOL! The Holy Spirit
and His gifts and workings are given to strengthen
us and minister to people and to enhance our prayer
life and relationship with God.
Jesus is my LIFE. Deut. 30:19-20 I am a very
serious, seeking Christian. And could probably only
be happy with someone who has realized the ONLY
blessed life is in selling out fully to seek and
serve God!
Out of choice, and turning down lots of possible
relationships over the years, I have Never yet
married. Though almost could have, would have a few
times or so (depending how you count). I have
instead postponed marriage 'til now out of
commitment to God and preferring instead to be
seeking Jesus and ministering to others (eternal
things as a greater priority!!!) God first,
marriage later.
Never have had any children. Out of obedience to
God's Word and struggling to make every attempt to
seek only pure relationships with women all these
years, I am still a virgin. I believe in the 1 Th 4
scripture which says: "Learn to acquire a wife in a
way that is holy and honorable not...like the
heathen who do not know God."
I have done a lot over the years in children's
ministry, evangelistic ministry, shepherding house
churches, music ministry, teaching Bible studies,
discipling younger believers, as well as prophetic
and encouragement ministry to other Christians. 1
Cor. 7 & Jesus' words in Matthew about "not
seeking a wife," being "content to remain single"
and "renouncing marriage for the sake of the
kingdom of heaven" have really formed the Matt.
6:33 priorities I have followed for a couple
decades since my teens.
It has been feeling more and more though that
perhaps the season may be here to seek the face of
God in prayer about a Christ-loving and honoring
wife. Which I have been doing (especially the last
two years or so). I believe in Heaven-arranged
marriages, one woman, one man, faithful to each
other for life. Proverbs 4-7 is a good guidebook on
relationships. In the middle of those chapters, it
says: "let them (your heart & emotions &
physical intimacy) be yours alone, never to be
shared with strangers." (This is a very wise
passage about staying true to lifelong faithfulness
to ONE, physical intimacy ONLY WITH ONE woman in
lifelong commitment of marriage for life).
Though there is forgiveness, mercy, healing and
restoration for any "old mistakes," it is God's
best to marry, both virgins, with a Matt. 6:33
focus of life and friendship. Then live fully
committed to seek Jesus together in worship, prayer
and God's Word - be in the Bible & prayer
TOGETHER regularly!
A husband and
wife can serve God together in evangelism and have
a relationship focus of ministering to others as a
"ministry temple of two." In Jesus TWO become ONE!
Eccl. 4 says: "TWO are BETTER THAN ONE for they
have a good return for their work."
I have prayed
about the possibility of a Jesus-centered,
ministry-fruitful Christian marriage for many
years. And have waited 'til now to see it actually
HAPPEN! Last summer God gave me a song: "In the
FULLNESS of God's time, there will be a bride this
time. And WE WILL REJOICE! YES WE WILL REJOICE! In
God's time."
God first
brought the subject of desire for a lifelong
companion to my heart by prayer and revelation over
fifteen years ago. Since then I have done a LOT OF
WAITING!!! Mostly I just needed to grow up myself
(and that has taken a LONG time). To learn to be a
man of God and put Jesus first. To let the Lord be
THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. And to learn an UNSELFISH
single life of praying for and ministering to
OTHERS.
God's provision
of a faithful, seeking Christian wife is in His
hands. I feel from scripture it will probably
happen when least expected (like in Genesis 22 when
the Ram SUDDENLY appeared in the thicket on
Abraham's mountain of sacrifice). Sacrifice first.
Provision later. You might be encouraged to know
that the Lord provided a wife for Adam WHILE HE WAS
ASLEEP! (That means no effort, dating, looking or
struggle took place on Adam's part. Adam was simply
RESTING.) Marriage began as 100% God's arrangement
and faithful provision. Psalm 127 says: "While they
SLEEP the Lord provides for those He loves. And
unless the Lord builds the house, its builders
labor in vain."
I usually spend Hours a day thinking about God,
listening to God's Word, hearing His heart in
prayer, song and worship. I love listening to the
Bible on cassette, CD or computer and talking to
others about it. The Lord is my life!
My income has been increasing every year in my
flourishing computer business. Have my own computer
business (sales, tech support and service). See
MacIndy.com for more. I am a musician also. See
MacIndy.com/ms for more on the music side of me.
(Audio links are there to hear some of my songs. Or
you can read my Christian testimony or order a free
music CD of original songs God has given me . Click
the link below to listen to FREE, live streaming
original Christian music from my website (songs God
has given). ENJOY!
Go hear
Jeff's music
Twice completed
college (two bachelor's degrees) + an Indiana
teacher's license. Live on the southside of
Indianapolis, Indiana near Greenwood.
For encouragement in your walk with the Lord or for
more about me (or MORE IMPORTANTLY more about Jesus
& God's Word) see: macindy.com
/ms
Thanks.
Write me if you want to share your testimony with
me or encourage each other or know more. Thanks for
reading my story. If God leads you, please pray for
me!
Tell me about yourself? Please send your picture,
when you contact me. So I can feel I am talking
with a person, not just some impersonal text on a
screen or piece of paper in my P.O. Box. And please
tell me, if you would, more details about your
relationship with God when you write. Who is Jesus to you,
every day? What has God been speaking to you
lately? What is your story? Thanks.
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